It's Okay to Take the Passenger Seat! Embracing Support in High-Pressure Roles
As women, we often carry an invisible weight—the need to be everything to everyone. In our careers, especially in leadership roles, the pressure to constantly perform, deliver, and juggle multiple responsibilities is a lot. I know this feeling all too well, both as the founder of Code Republic and as a mom of three teenagers in a blended family. But one of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that leadership isn’t about always having to take the driver’s seat—it’s about knowing when to take the passenger seat and let others take the lead.
Embracing the Passenger Seat Is Empowering
There’s a perception that stepping back in high-pressure situations might be a sign of weakness. But in reality, it's a demonstration of strength. It shows that you trust those around you—whether it’s your team, your mentors, or your support system. Taking the passenger seat doesn’t mean you’re relinquishing control of your vision; rather, it means you’re empowering others to rise to the occasion, offering their unique perspectives and skills to tackle the challenge at hand.
At Code Republic, I’ve learned that the best way to scale a business is to recognize that I can’t—and shouldn’t—do it all. There are times when I need to let my team take ownership of projects, decisions, or creative solutions. This doesn’t just relieve me of unnecessary stress, it also gives them the opportunity to grow and thrive.
Know When to Let Go
As women, we tend to wear many hats. We often feel that if we don’t manage every detail, something might slip through the cracks. But there’s power in letting go. By stepping back, you not only create space for yourself to breathe and recalibrate, but you also give others the opportunity to shine.
So, how do you know when it’s time to take the passenger seat? Ask yourself:
- Am I holding onto this task out of habit or fear that it won’t be done "right"?
- Is there someone better equipped to handle this situation or decision?
- Can I use this moment to delegate and empower someone on my team to grow?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then it’s time to let go and trust the people around you. You’ll be surprised at how much weight lifts off your shoulders when you allow others to take the wheel.
Lean on Your Network
Another key aspect of knowing when to take the passenger seat is learning to lean on your professional network. I’ve been fortunate to have a circle of mentors and fellow entrepreneurs who have been instrumental in guiding me through tough times. We don’t have to navigate the journey alone. Our networks—whether they’re mentors, colleagues, or industry peers—are there to offer advice, encouragement, and perspective when we need it most.
I encourage every woman to build a strong network and not be afraid to seek advice or help when needed. It’s easy to feel isolated, especially when leading a company or a team, but tapping into the wisdom of others is a powerful way to overcome obstacles.
Taking the Passenger Seat Isn't Losing Control
One of the biggest misconceptions about stepping back is that it means losing control. This couldn’t be further from the truth. As a leader, knowing when to take the passenger seat is actually a way of staying in control of the bigger picture. By delegating tasks, asking for help, and trusting others, you’re ensuring that the wheels of your business or career keep turning smoothly.
Think of it this way: a good driver knows when to take the wheel, but also when to trust their co-pilot to navigate the way.
Thrive by Sharing the Load
The temptation to carry it all can be strong. But no one achieves success alone. By embracing support—whether from your team, mentors, or professional network—you not only share the load, but you create an environment where everyone can thrive. You lead by example, showing that real strength comes from collaboration and trust.
As the founder of Code Republic, my greatest successes have come from moments where I trusted my team to take the lead, leaned on my network for support, and allowed myself the grace to step back. So, here’s my advice: the next time you feel the weight of responsibility, remember that it’s okay to take the passenger seat. You don’t have to steer the ship alone—sometimes, the best leaders are those who let others take the wheel.
Anthea Xx
Founder & Designer of Code Republic
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